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“I didn’t understand “I don’t know how to let someone be submerged in me”- what do you mean by submerged in you?”
Like me literally being what someone thinks about all day everyday. The most important thing in someone else’s life. Literally its like his entire world revolves around me. That’s just something I’m not used to I guess. I’ve never been anyone’s #1 priority before.
So the bickering. Im going to copy and paste some parts from the previous share because it really did happen that way.
but Im actually going to quote the messages.
So the last messages we exchanged were fine we were just joking it was about 6:40pm and he was still at work.
At 7:35pm I text him and say “Im about to go meet Jimmy at Cheddars and then we will be back at the house. So I’ll see you then since your camping out at work. lol”
Him: Damn Aite
Me: What is to “Damn” about?
Him: Nothing I guess I’ll go find something to do I’ll see u
Me: I told you Jimmy was coming over today…he’s hungry and want to go eat. He’s buying. Its not like I am spending money.
(I find myself trying to figure out what I’ve said that bothered him. So I say this because I told him my money was low and he had been picking up the slack so to speak so I didn’t want him to feel like oh I can pay for food with other people but not him. So let me clarify that. Right? Nope cuz he’s continues.
Him: You said he was coming to the HOUSE
Him: You good *thumbs up*
Me: I was literally waiting for him to tell me he was on the way from work and he said he was hungry and buying so meet him at a restaurant. What am I going to say? I cant leave the house? -__-
Him: That has nothing to do with nothing
Me: It has everything to do with it. Im not understanding the issue here. He is coming to the house still.
So then he stopped texting me and I’m in the car and I call him while I was driving.
He says that he doesn’t want to hear my reasoning because I’m just talking in circles and that I because we were going to Cheddars that means I had always known that we were going to get food. because I had been wanting to go there because I had told him a week or so ago.
When in reality jimmy just named 4 places and told me to pick. Wings, Pizza, Cheddars, and Chinese. Ironically Cheddars was one of his picks too. No biggie.
But he isn’t hearing any of that.
So then the next day hes just picking and bickering at whatever;
I text him: When are you coming home today??
Him: Idk watssup?
Me: I was just curious. I told you last week or so that I’d like you to tell me that but u didn’t start doing it so I guess my next option was just asking you.
Him: Aawwwwwww okay. I thought you was gonna have some food ready of have something for me.
Me: Is that the only reason I can know when you will be coming home?
Him: That’s Never Been The Reason. Its never nothing for me. I was just saying.
(Girl I surprise him with shit all the time! Like food cooked, or ill hide stuff around his belongings so he finds little gift when he comes in)
Me: Never is a strong word. I never have food for you when you get home? I never have surprises for you when you get home? That’s just untrue. You say I do “nothing for you” just whenever you feel like saying it.
Him: Negative
Me: Well I’m sorry you feel that way I disagree but your entitled to your opinion.
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later on in bed:
I was laying on him like oh you smell good. did you take a shower?
Him: Yea before I went to my moms. Did you take a shower?
Me: No,
Him: Oh you didn’t get all spiffy for your friend Jimmy? (Him still trying to imply I knew I was going somewhere..I DIDNT)
Me: No,.
Him: You didn’t have makeup on?
Me: No..
Him: Not even that concelor stuff you say isn’t makeup
Me: No…
Him: *Gets up and goes in bathroom* *Comes back and lays down*
Me: I don’t know whats in there or whats on the counter. but I haven’t even washed my face yet you can look at me…I don’t have make up on…
Him: Oh well the stuff was on the counter….
Me: Okay well Idk what to tell you. because I literally don’t have any on. MAYBE I was going to put concelor on but I was also texting you trying to get out the house too so maybe I just forgot to actually do it
….but why does it matter…like literally why are we even talking about this.
—–Sunday
I was going to make these really special cupcakes for him and I needed peanut butter oreos. I already was at one store and they didn’t have them. So I go to a whole other store looking for them so I can make these for him right. but im texting him during.
1:30pm–They don’t have peanut butter oreos 🙁 🙁
2:12pm-What that mean
2:22pm–I send him a picture of *Walmart and peanut butter oreos* and I say Going in up in Walmart for you!! Don’t ever want to hear that I don’t love you bs again lol <3 <3
2:15pm–Hell fucking looooooo
2:20–??
(If your noticing the times are out of order its because he has bad reception at his job, he knows it, I know it, and now you know it but for some reason he just doesn’t ever take that into account before he gets mad and acts like Im not responding to his messages) I wasn’t getting them. Then when I did I didn’t really understand what he was saying. I thought hell fucking looo was a typo for “hell fucking yea lol” like oh that’s whats up you got the cookies.
But he calls me 2:22pm
I answer and he says “your not getting my message?”. I was like “Im trying to figure out what it says.” He was like “are you still in the store?”. I was like yea and he just hung up. Im like what?
So then I look at the messages and see none of my messages have actually delieved to his phone. Since Ive been in Walmart
So his messages look like:
Me: They don’t have peanut butter oreos 🙁 🙁
Him: Whats that mean?
Him: Hell fucking looooo
Him: ??
When in reality Ive been texting you back the entire time.
I called him back he didn’t answer and I text him like Wayu hang up for?
You weren’t getting my messages.
Then I see them all deliever at once so he probably had 6-7 of my messages come thru. but now he isn’t reading them because hes mad.
Im like “Really? this is what I get ignored? While im trying to do something nice for you.
He message me back like 45 min later like “Okay”
I said “Okay? U not going to say my bad baby, miscommunication, sorry babe? nothing
him: “You was reading and not writing back you almost didn’t answer the phone”
I was like ” No I just didn’t understand what I was reading because I thought they were replies to what I sent you…that you didn’t receive”
Him: “Aite”
Me: How can you say someone almost didn’t answer tho. that’s so presumptive because beyond all that I ANSWERED. you don’t know how long the phone rang on my end and I was while in a store doing something for you!
I guess you not going to see it like u just over exaggerated and got mad without the facts.
That’s 3-4 through examples. lol