Dear Jen:

Him shutting down and you getting scared and apologizing has worked for him, a way to avoid dealing with issues. Until it didn’t work for him anymore.

I was wondering, can you give a couple of examples of a hurtful or offensive thing he said to you?

Why did he accuse you of physically threatening him, is an interesting question, to me. Did he accuse you of that so to hurt you, I wonder (my question above may help in this quest of understanding).

I do hope you feel better soon. Four years is a long time and included lots of traveling and plans for the future, plans that may not (and reads to me, should not) materialize.

anita