Dear Sarah:

You are exhausted, then rest. If you agree that being honest, direct, truthful and yet self respecting is the right way to go, you can practice it now, outside the context of a relationship with a man. You can practice it in your interactions with anyone and everyone. It will then become a habit that will be easier to implement in your next  beginning relationship.

A relationship shouldn’t be about a performance, making sure the man has a good time and then choose to be with you forevermore. It is about being real with him from the start, get to know him gradually and let him know you gradually. Not a good idea to start with a false front, planning on becoming real later on. True front from the beginning, then reveal more of that true front gradually, if the relationship is safe and increasingly loving.

anita