Hi ManinBlack,

I’m sorry you were (and are) her Dirty Little Secret. All I can think of is:

1. Now that the allure, danger and excitement of seeing a Taboo Person is over, she is finally seeing you as just another ordinary guy. So several years ago this guy was heavily pursuing me. Nothing happened, but I absolutely loved the attention. Now that it’s several years later he reminds me of the green snot/blob character from the Mucinex commercials. I am legit embarrassed I let the flirtation happen. I CRINGE when I see those commercials. Just saying.

2. And/or she is feeling extreme guilt for breaking up a family. Now that she is a little older she finally “gets” what that means. She feels not worthy. She thinks it’s too soon. She doesn’t want her friends or family, the ones she admires the most (p.s. she does not admire you), to catch wind that it was a past affair or connect the dots that SHE was ever ANYONE’S mistress.

I don’t know what to say, man. Was it worth it? (No.) Did you learn anything? (Yes.)

Now (perhaps) tell that little girl that you are dating grown women who are proud to be seen with you.

Don’t be the Mucinex Guy.

Good Luck!

Inky