Even though my ex-wife and I were friends, we married young (at 19) but that romantic spark never really got going.  I didn’t feel the same way she felt about me but I never strayed from our marriage.  I treated her well but she felt like we didn’t have enough sex (we had sex 2-3 a week for 20 years but that wasn’t enough for her) and she starting seeking attention elsewhere.  I’m totally ok with not being married to her anymore and we remain friends and are good coparents to our kids.  I just think her actions triggered something in me about not being good enough and I still struggle with it.

I am familiar with the 5 languages and my current wife is touch-based and I’m affirmation based.  I take very good care of my wife and we have a fantastic romantic relationship.  She was cheated on and she sometimes has some insecurities about me leaving her like all these other guys did and I assure her I’m solid and not going anywhere.  I guess we all have our issues from time to time.  I’m just tired of comparing myself to her exs.  She married/dated handsome guys and for some reason I feel like I don’t measure up.