Hello Anita and thanks for replying.

My ex-wife cheated on me because we were just sexually incompatible.  Everything else was fine for the most part.  I know the people she cheated on me with and they were not super hot guys or anything, just regular guys but they gave her the attention she needed.  My ex-wife told me she always thought I was more handsome than anybody, including the guys she cheated with so I’m not sure where my preoccupation with looks comes from.  My ex-wife has told me that I am a remarkable father, husband, friend, everything…we just didn’t have that romantic spark.  I am not a vain man or anything and struggle to figure out why I compare myself with other men.  It’s not just looks either, it’s sense of humor, how much more loving I am, how much better I take care of a family, and other intangibles.  I just want to be the best everything for my current wife so I do not experience the pain of her leaving as I know all too well what that feels like.