Dear Saya:

Maybe your ROCD thoughts are fueled by the fear of being too vulnerable to rejection. The more loving, the more vulnerable, the more it will hurt if and when rejected by the one you love, correct? So maybe part of your brain is trying to convince your heart that you don’t love him, so to not get hurt.

You put a lot of emphasis on your feelings, asking and wondering how you are supposed to feel. We all need to feel okay and we all dislike not feeling okay. That is understandable. But it is not realistic to expect to feel okay all the time, to expect a certain feeling to remain unchanged.

And when we feel distressed, not okay, it is important to put the effort to function effectively anyway, no matter how distressed we feel. Got to have the thinking and feeling work together for best functioning.

anita