Dear calisister:

When anxious at this moment, the hope is in the next moment- that is what fuels the quest for what-is-next. Only the hope really is in this very moment. Developing my thought further: in nature, chased by a predator, the potential prey’s hope really is in the next moment, the moment after a fast running away. But when we are not in real life danger, as you being in a particular bar, hope is not in the next bar.

You coming up with questions a guy is  likely to ask is an excellent idea. The guy is asking this on the first date or one of the firsts. The questions and my answers:

1. Are you close with your family?- I am close with my sister. I have one sister who is older than me. I am not close with my parents. How about you?

2. So when are you free to hang out? – My work schedule is this … After work I (ex. take my puppy on a walk), outside of that I am pretty free. How about you?

3. Why are you a virgin?- (because you didn’t tell me why, I will be guessing, you can correct me on it, and of course, the whole-truth-and-nothing-but-the-truth is none of the guy’s business, definitely not on a first or one of the first dates)-

I value sex as part of a special, intimate relationship with a man, nothing I take lightly. What about you?

anita