Dear Ally/ Alexandra:

“When will I ever feel safe to feel happy again?”-

My answer: when you feel distressed/ depressed long enough, your brain/body will take its much needed break and feel good for another short time, be it a moment or a week.

Long term, you will feel at peace, more content and somewhat happy, if not extremely happy, when you practice adequate control over the circumstances of your life. If your circumstances do not depend on what other people choose for you, for example, the man in the UK, if you choose your circumstances (as much as in your ability to choose), then you will be happier, long term.

anita