Dear calisister:

You wrote a couple of posts before: “No I did not feel safe this weekend because these are not my people. They are best friends with the bride to be. I am just one of the bridesmaids.”

By “my people” I think you mean blood family, as in your mother, your father, your sister.

Let’s take one of your people, that is, your father. In your post above, you wrote about last May with him: “I felt safe for the moment. Maybe an evening. But then I felt unsafe again because I knew emotional abuse would ensue shortly.”

Not much of real life safety with… your people, is it?

Real life safety is trusting a person to not abuse you following providing comfort, is it not?

anita