Hi Trisha,

It’s a universal issue.

Unless we ourselves pick the girl, no one will ever be good enough for our sons, it seems.

What helped me was time, and children. When you have kids, there is an instant connection and bond. You can brag about the children, who you proudly call “our kids”. You can name the first born daughter after her (this went a LONG way with me! I also accidentally named a son after her grandfather (she found out her grandfather’s original name after that son was born). Again, it went a LONG way!) You can visit her or call her on her birthdays, and have her overhear you brag about her to your friends. You can also ask for her help and advice. It’s hard to dislike someone who you think admires you.

And there you have it! That’s how I became “the best god dam daughter-in-law in the world” to my in-laws.

Love is the Law,

Inky