Dear Jenny Lynn:

Better not apply what you think you know about your mother’s relationship that ended to your relationship. You don’t know enough about her relationship.

What you described, some of it, is the same as before: annoyances living with him.

Better have a weekly financial meeting with him, a notebook handy where you plan together, as a team, plan his car payments, rent etc., to there are no surprises regarding where the money went and why did he miss a couple of car payments.

The Small and Big in the last part of your post, not clear to me.

anita