Dear Soul-searcher,

Your emotional tantrums is exactly what my GF have. Whenever she is unhappy it will be very extreme. No matter what I say will not stop her tantrums. Sometimes she acted out very unreasonable. But she deny that. She still says I caused it. She did have a bad childhood. Her dad past away when she was young and it cause her to go into depression. She got it treated but I think her emotional tantrums is still lingering. She also did say that whenever she got angry, I just need to leave her alone. That I just need to hug her or touch her to provide her a sense of calm. Problem is, I can’t do it cause we are in long distance relationship.

Whenever we have disagreement she would be so emotionally unstable that I cannot even explain myself to her. I was afraid that if I keep quiet she will think of the worst. If I explain, she will say I don’t know when to keep quiet. It is true that I should have left her alone? Anyway we are already separated and she wants nothing to do with me. All I did was trying to love her and make her calm by explaining I am not what she think I was.