Dear abubin:

You wrote in your last post: “I promised her I would not runaway from her like I did when we were young. I am a man of my word.”

I suggest to you that you excuse yourself from your promise because your promise, reads to me, was based on her lying to you. I will explain: I don’t believe that “For 30 years, she was yearning for (you)”. And I don’t believe you ran away from the young woman you didn’t even know at the time.

Did she yearn for you at one time or another, did she stop by where you lived, while your house was being innovated? Probably. But she did not yearn for you for thirty years, just like she didn’t yearn for you while in relationship with you.

If she had yearned for you for thirty years, she would have yearned for you during the relationship between the two of you and her yearning wouldn’t have stopped because you didn’t like the book she liked.

Let me know what you think, if you’d like.

anita