- My ex fiance and I were still together and a friend approached me and said my fiance was talking to a mutual friend and saying we had split up already and he was single and said things about our sex life being rubbish and on holiday he did everything he could to be by himself.
- He had previously told people he was single and kept his life quite compartmentalised so could get away with it, yet never get a conversation with me that he wasn’t happy.
- We had only been engaged for 2 months but had been together for 3 years.
The current ex who is on the dating profile and spoke about me said derogatory comments about my body size and how he never was attracted to me at all and he was embarrassed of me (I have to use a wheelchair at times) also it was boring bring with someone who’s unwell also said that we have stayed friends and he could have sex with me anytime he wanted ( he used different words to what I have) but he wouldn’t
Also said he told me he loved me but that it wasn’t true. He also said sexually he wasn’t happy because if my health problems I couldn’t do things he wanted and because it wasn’t very regular because I’m unwell
He said I am lonely so he stays friends with me so I’m not alone and feels sorry for me as I’m ill and my family live 4 hours away and I have no friends.
These are both men in mid 30s, both have young children and good jobs etc, I might have understood this behaviour from teenage boys but not grown men.
And both men knew I was ill before they started a relationship
My confidence is gone. And I feel no more want with my health conditions as it’s pretty obvious both guys had a problem with it both to be with me and sexually.
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