Dear Louise:

You wrote: “Does it make me weak to still worry about him and his depression and wellbeing?”

I think that worrying weakens us physically. Operating against our well-being, one way of doing so is interacting with people who disrespect us, also weakens us.

He disrespected you in very hurtful ways. Let him suffer the natural consequence of viciously disrespecting the woman who was kind to him. If you withdraw from him and let him know why, he may learn to not disrespect a person who has been kind and loving to him. That may help him.

anita