Dear Kazuma:

So your guilt is about feeling the way you do, that is liking her so much while you are in a relationship with your girlfriend?

You wrote: “how can I feel like this towards one person when I’m in love with another?”- well, you can because it is possible. Many other people experience such as you do. There is nothing wrong with you for feeling the way you do, neither is it evidence of wrongdoing or a bad character to feel the way you do.

We don’t choose what we feel. When there is no choice, there is no guilt.

We are responsible only to our behavior, not to what we happen to feel or what we happen to think. All our waking time we think and feel and think… if we were responsible for all those thoughts, all those feelings, my goodness, we would be guilty thousands of time per day.

Only your actions, that is all.

She was hurt and she blocked you. This is unfortunate. And it already happened. It is now in the past.

anita