Dear jillian:

You asked: “Is it really worth it anymore?” – we don’t forget a serious act of aggression by the one we love, I don’t think. You can forget a somewhat aggressive teasing or a louder voice or such, but what you described is serious aggression. At one point it kind of neutralizes the love, takes away the trust in the love shown us, doesn’t it?

Two weeks of him not drinking and two weeks of him not getting irrationally angry. Are you considering waiting a certain amount of time, to see how long he stays sober?

anita