Dear Louisalou:

You are welcome.

In your most recent post you wrote: “there is no relationship anymore which is why I’m so confused as to what he’s doing by contacting me in ways he is. I would like closure as it’s not officially ended”-

In these two lines I see two assumptions that are not true to reality:

1. You assume people’s behavior makes sense. Reality: lots of people’s behavior does not make sense, does not follow logic. He is one of these many, many people.

2. You assume that the closure you need will be official if and when he gives it to you. Reality: you can form your own very official closure.

There are another incorrect assumptions: that you are worthless because he treats you the ways he does and there is no relationship, not the one you want.

I suppose you have things to work on in the therapy you scheduled. I attended my first quality therapy for over two years starting in 2011. It helped me a lot to figure out assumptions vs reality. It was CBT, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.

I hope you post again, will be glad to communicate with you further.

anita