Dear KD:

Regarding the idea of forgiving your father for abandoning you as a child, for not being in your life for 25 years by his choice, and for causing or significantly contributing to a whole lot of suffering on your part, I ask this:

Did he acknowledge his wrongdoing to you in a clear and sincere way and did he offer you something like significant amount of money (for him), so that you attend therapy (as a way for him to show you that he indeed regrets hurting you and that he indeed is willing to put his actions where his words are)?

anita