KD,

I agree with anita.  Unless your father is willing to take responsibility for his actions then trying to reconcile/resolve/”restorative justice” would probably be moot.

It sounds like the best recourse is to heal yourself.  I would go through the stages for forgiveness first.  https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/heart-and-soul-healing/201301/9-steps-forgiveness

I understand your conflict between wanting to love your father and your pain from him.

Go through those steps first before jumping right into forgiving and loving him.

Mark