Dear Mike:

In my experience of such comparison as you described and as I understand it, I compared the ways I looked, the way I behaved and the way I performed to the ways I believed or hoped would win my mother’s approval. In that comparison I came out lacking. That was definitely a source of conflict throughout my life.

The title of your thread includes “how I should be in my own head”- in our own heads we have the mental representative of our parent or parents and their input therefore is ongoing.

What do you think?

anita