you 100% right Anita. I am that girl! the youngest of 3 and the trophy. My sisters do take care of my mother but because we all live in 3 different countries, I get the responsibility. I am the only American one and my mother loves America over all the countries (even India where she lived for more than 50 years). She is well capable of taking care of herself so she isn’t a burden by any means. My boyfriend knew what he signed on for when we met. I am 100% myself with everyone. I told him to leave many times as I am not a conventional girl when conventional family and family roles. But going to America was more for our lives together than my mother. Housing in Dublin is very expensive and neither one of us can afford it. I have a home in America so I find it very hard to live in a dingy apartment in Dublin. He feels the same way so it was discussed that move to America is for our lives. I also promised him that if he doesn’t like it in America (after 2 years), we will move back to Ireland forever. My mother will happily live with my sister in Canada.

I think the reality is that he doesn’t love me. I have to accept it. It may take me a few weeks but I will have to accept it. As sweet as Inky’s words are, I do not think anyone will ever look back and regret leaving me because they never loved me in the first place.

Thank you again for somehow knowing who I am!