So a few weeks ago he brought up that he could talk to his manager and ask if they were hiring so that i could apply. This was right after I lost the job ( that I really loved) So I just told him that “That’s a really good idea and i really appreciate you trying to help I’m just not sure if that would be somewhere I would want to work right now” and he said “I should just stop trying to help because I can’t help or make you feel better” and then didn’t respond for an hour or so. and then started saying how ” I should just break up with him because he’s just shitty and can’t make me happy so I probably just want to break up with him, etc.” I asked him if that is what he wants and he said “no not at all. i guess I’m just convincing myself that you do.” Just things like that, both of us overreacting and letting our insecurities get in the way. But again, we resolved it, at least i thought. but maybe to him we didn’t? because he still thought he just couldn’t make me happy or feel better