Dear Jenny Lynn:

Love shouldn’t be painful. What a shame: that you love him so much and hurting so much.

If loving him has caused you so  much pain, for too long and his behaviors do not change, the behaviors causing you pain, then are we to  pursue pain? Like you wrote, it is too much to do this “for the next 50 years”

We want something so bad we get attached to it, to what we want, and keep at it, waiting, hoping, trying.. then giving up then trying again. And on and on. And then, five years later, fifteen, fifty and you wonder: really? This is how I spent my life, my youth?

You can be miserable all by yourself.

Between being miserable with him with no reasonable hope for a good, loving relationship and being miserable by yourself with hope for a better relationship, better make the second choice.

However difficult it is and will e for a while.

anita