boots2018,
Good that you are taking the possibility of sleeping with your boss off the table.
If you or he don’t want to be tempted then don’t exchange texts. Work can always be an excuse for such communication but imagine work is able to get done before the technology of texts outside of work was invented.
I roll my eyes whenever people use the term “soulmate” when they are infatuated. Set boundaries with him and have it so conversations be only about work not personal exchanges about how each other’s married life is, etc. This only adds fuel to the emotional intimacy which in turn fuels the sexual desire.
Even though you “miss him like crazy” if you are not in constant contact with him, you are emotionally cheating on your husband by such exchanges.
Is this the marriage you want? Is this the marriage you made a vow for? Can you look at yourself in the mirror or your husband in the eyes and say that you are living in integrity? A good measure is to imagine if he was doing the same with someone else. How would you feel about that? The fact you posted here means you are conflicted with your behavior. If you want advice then live your values. If you have to start rationalizing your behavior and your life then you are not doing so.
Mark
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