Hi Anita,

I have dealt with that trauma but in my mind what was ‘supposed’ to happen after a loss is the opposite of what happened. No one came together to support eachother- it just drew a wedge in between everyone. Even went their own ways and distance grew. It seems like when I express my emotions it upsets people because they would rather sweep everything under the rug.

I can relate to what you say because we all ‘get along’ if everyone does what they are supposed to do and no one makes a fuss. If anyone rocks the boat or expresses real human emotion that is inconvenient and does not work.

I have tried many times to bring us together, as the oldest I try to fix everything, which ends up blowing up in my face. The part now I am having difficulty with is ACCEPTING the reality of the situation. How did you accept this relationship with your mother? I cannot change it or make people care that dont.

Thanks for your response.