Yeah all that makes sense. I agree.

That last paragraph I like a lot. Basically your saying that everyone is a little messed up but in the end how reasonable is the person in viewing it like you will spend the rest of your life in the space of that someone’s imperfection. IE good out weighing bad. No one is perfect, but I was tolerating imperfections that cost me in the end.

Maybe if I had drawn a line a long time ago in these situations where I gave in it would have provoked a conflict that would have provoked a change that HEY YOU DONT RUN MY LIFE or ended it sooner. Whether it was me telling him I wasnt ready to be in a relationship, or live together, or I needed some space, or that I still wanted to be friends with Leo. If I had said these things sooner I may have seen how he acts when he doesn’t get his way or when he feels wronged (even when not because they are my choices). Then; I would have still had enough foot hold in MY LIFE unconsumed with him to see the wrong in the reaction I may have gotten.

I felt like at the time it was what I wanted. Overtime something did feel a little off..the appreciation..admiration I usually got (in past relationships) kind of made me withdraw from him at times.