Dear Asja:

You are welcome. It reads to me that there is no hope for a good relationship with him, not a reasonable hope anyway. I suggested to tell him that you will be able to talk with him after you live separately from him not because I believe you should reconsider then living with him again. I suggested it so perhaps to motivate him to lessen his pressure on you to talk now.

And indeed, you will need to talk with him in the future, when separated, about the daughter you share, because unless he gives up his rights as a parent or unless you can take him to court and take away his rights, you will have to deal with him as a co parent. And so, there will be talking … after separating.

Be strong and post here anytime.

anita