Dear Hara:

In your previous your thread you shared that  you are currently living with your mother who, you wrote, “has been very  critical about me all of my life”. Your mother’s “main goal in life is to have a clean, spotless  house”, you wrote.

About your recent  boyfriend you wrote that you find  yourself changing into what you hate about you mother, “picking on him”, “it’s a terrible habit of being  negative”, you wrote.

In your current thread you wrote: “I put my heart and  soul into trying to make things work out with men, but I cannot seem to meet any man who is not a child”.

It would be  helpful if you don’t treat a man like your mother treated you, or still treats you.

Reads to me that your mother focused  on having a clean, spotless house because she found comfort in it, safely. She was able to ignore all the trouble in her life because she focused on the clean house.

Is it still working for her… and is she  still critical of you?

anita