Hi Anita

I agree this is why me and my ex have now taken time out and even though it’s called time out its pretty much a break up as he wont wait around forever and nor should he. So I feel I have lost a good opportunity and hope I can forgive myself for that.

I have never tried to completely remove myself from the situation in all honesty maybe I should have done that. My partner would remove himself but I would not.  I know it will take time.

I did and have accepted all parts of my father yes. Growing up and even now, none of us abandoned him and nor did my mother she still stayed with him.

my relationship with my mother is good. Its the one thing that does make me happy. she is flawed naturally and says things often she does not mean (nothing too extreme) but overall we have a good solid relationship.

Ps – Thank you for all this advice. x