Dear Jerry:

Your thinking and acting regarding jobs and money make sense. Choosing business was probably a good choice on your part.

The problem in your mind and life, as I see it, is not solely that of career choice. If you pursued psychology instead of business, I don’t see that it would have been a better choice.

As I see it, there is a problem in your relationship with your wife that factors into your depression in a significant way, and that could not be solved by making this or that career choice. Clearly you made a good choice in regard of income, but that did not improve the relationship with her.

How do I know the relationship with your wife is not good? Because you shared the following: “I just want to scream out everything I’m about and have someone listen with anticipation”- clearly she is not listening with anticipation, clearly you have been silent with her for too long, so much so that you want to scream.

You shared: “I think one of my main difficulties in life has been interacting with others in deep, meaningful ways. And I long for that kind of interaction”- clearly, you don’t have that kind of interaction with your wife.

You shared: “I feel like a broken record, talking about similar feelings over and over”- to your wife, so you pressed the stop button on that broken record?

We are social beings. We need to interact with others in deep and meaningful ways, at least sometimes. Without such interaction any job will be unsatisfactory.

I get the feeling that you are a very private person and it may be awkward for you to share here about more intimate parts of your life, such as your relationship with your wife. You are welcome to, right here with me. Let me know either way..?

anita