Dear srk:

Looking at your questions in your recent post, I will attend to your questions.

“Not try to build relationships in my life?”- not a good idea. As social animals we are driven to build and maintain relationships. Our mental health is dependent on having at the least one good, healthy relationship.

“That I need to embrace things as is?” -no, you need at least one good, loving relationship. More, better.

Regarding the price people pay to fit in a group, to maintain a friendship that is not healthy- well, see to it that you don’t pay that price. Be selective, pay attention. You want “to be a part of other people’s lives”- see to it that your part in their life is a Win for them, and that their part in your life is a Win for you (Win-Win relationships).

You “want to open (yourself) up to others”- select the others, one at a time, individually, so that you open yourself up to something safe and good.

anita