Dear Kara:

You wrote above that “his heart got broken in that process”- I don’t think his heart got broken in the process of the relationship with you, or because of you. I think he came into the relationship with you broken.

He changes too quickly, from tears to anger, from promises to blaming. Taking into consideration his suicidal threats and the police being involved in a previous incident, as well as his personal ongoing problems outside the relationship with you, I think that he may very well be dangerous, not only to himself but to you and to your children.

You wrote earlier: “he takes my boy to soccer weekly”- I think it is important that he no longer has any contact with any of your children, that you notify schools your children attend, the soccer coach, etc., that he is not allowed to visit your children or leave school/ soccer practice with them. Make it very clear to relevant personnel that needs to know this.

It is very important that you do not change your mind and connect with him, that you do not accept gifts from him, that you do not encourage him in any way, shape or form to reconnect with you.

I hope he withdraws from your life and that you will not have to involve the police or the courts on the matter (restraining order and such).

Post again anytime.

anita