Dear Jenny Lynn:

What is most important, I believe, is not to.. jump into another relationship any which way but to investigate, through conversations. No longer guess about things but find out information, factual information: what is the other person’s motivation, what is yours, is there a fit. What are the other person’s challenges, what are yours, can the two of you work it out together, etc.

No guessing, no assumptions, no make believe, real life honest conversations. And if an honest conversation doesn’t work out, if that cannot be achieved before a relationship- better not start (or re-start) a relationship.

About Leo- arrange to meet and talk, if you want.

It doesn’t matter how soon you do talk to Leo, or a man you didn’t yet meet, how soon after the ending of your last relationship, that is. What matters is that you don’t enter a relationship blindly or partially blindly, but with your eyes and ears  open after a series of honest, straightforward conversations.

anita