Hi Anita. Thanks again for responding and helping me decipher things.

I understand what you are saying about more intense doesn’t necessarily mean better in the sense of being a mother. I have an intense relationship with my mum and one that I don’t always feel is very healthy. It was only after therapy that I considered being a mother myself.

I think you are right about him not being interested. At least for now, but maybe ever… He cries on occasion, usually if cry or am upset. I don’t really see him cry otherwise. He is low spirited usually when he feels overwhelmed at work and/or tired. I think he might see children as another source of stress which he can’t cope with. He likes to have things a certain way and is quite particular. I can see that maybe children are a scary unknown quantity for him. I don’t think he can see any positives or the point of having children. As you say, there is a September deadline, but maybe I already know the answer…