Hello A. Prashanth,

I can hear the sadness in your post and like Anita, I’m so glad you vented here and expressed your thoughts and feelings.  Sometimes in doing that, we find the answers we need or the resolve to carry on.

I also agree with Lea that you need to STOP comparing your life to others.

You may have considered this already, but what you are imagining will bring you happiness and fulfillment may end up being just another path of emptiness and frustration.  By that I mean, you may meet someone you are attracted to.  You fall in love.  You plan a life together – these are all things you say you want so desperately.  But there are no guarantees.  There are no guarantees that something could happen suddenly to the person you have finally found and love so much.  There is no guarantee that the life you build together will end suddenly through some tragedy or other circumstance out of your control.  There is no guarantee that the person you find will have a change of heart.  Or that you will have a change of heart.

The idea that you are putting so much weight and value on this one aspect of your life makes me wonder how much effort you are putting into developing yourself through other interests and activities.  It is in doing so that you might meet the person you are seeking.  Then again, you might not.  But at least you are doing things that you are enjoying and becoming more self-aware.

Regardless of any of that, what I have found useful in my own life in dealing with “what is,” is to find something that brings me happiness each day – something that I have control over, and also to be grateful for the things in my life that are good and are working.

Wishing you peace,

Airene