hey!!

my situation is a bit different, since I don’t feel anxiety until later on as relationships get serious, but I definitely understand that feeling of putting someone on a pedestal, feeling very anxious of the unknown or being rejected. i always deal with these issues, no matter how well i’m doing in my single/independent life. i think it’s so hard with relationships all of a sudden, due to the uncertainty of them. the best advice I can give you is to take things very slow with who you meet, while focusing on your own work, interests, hobbies, will definitely make you realize what’s more important. mindfulness or breathing exercises are wonderful as well.

have you thought of psychotherapy?? I’ve been doing it, and it’s a huge help for me. once we can understand the patterns of our thoughts and behaviors, especially based on our past, we’re on our way to accepting whatever comes us our way (good or bad) and being our best selves! if therapy isn’t an option, there’s some great books you can read on it too.

hope that helps, and keep us updated :`)