Dear cass:

You are welcome.

If you are considering that the fact that she happens to live closer to him “could definitely be the reason why he was willing to move so fast with her”, then it is physical distance that is the reason, not that there is something wrong with you, isn’t it?

Notice this: at the beginning of your post, you wrote “We were both conveniently moving to the same relative area around the same time so we thought it would work”- physical distance was a significant factor all along, for him (as well as for you).

A second point: you wrote in your recent post, “It makes me feel like he never really had strong feelings for me like he portrayed if he was so easily able to move on”- not necessarily so. Sometimes people have such strong feelings to one person, that when separated from that person, they rush to a new relationship, to a second person,  so to … forget their strong feelings about the first.

You wrote earlier, “We would constantly argue about me going out to parties, what I would wear… He would also always say things implying that I would leave him for a younger/more attractive guy and was very worried that I would cheat on him”-

Maybe he feels less threatened by the idea that the new woman in his life will leave him, maybe he feels safer with her because she doesn’t go out to parties, and she dresses and looks less attractive (in his mind) than you do. Can that be?

anita