Dear Vaibhav:

You are welcome.

You wrote: “I just cannot take a stand to leave… my emotions and feelings are so strong for her that I am not able to let go of her.”

Some of your distress is about you being conflicted, struggling: to leave or stay, to let go of her or hold on to her. I don’t think that at this time you are calm enough to make this choice and it is not necessary that you do. If you eliminate the conflict, that is, no longer fight within yourself (to leave or stay), your distress will lessen. Stop the inner struggle and you may calm down.

Another part of your distress is about the woman you love having cheated on you. This happened. It hurts. Best you can, relax into this hurt. Don’t try to run away from it by considering ending the relationship. Instead stay with the hurt.

It may help you to express this hurt more right here. How does it feel, where do you feel it. Staying with  hurt is the way that leads to resolving it.

anita