Dear dreaming715:

My first thought/ feeling was: I wish you did get married to your boyfriend very soon. I wish that wedding took place and that you will be happy.

After a wedding, it will still be the same “normal cohabitated relationship” that you are having now, of course. No magic to add to it, following the wedding. It is still you, him and day to day living, just like now.

There will probably be comfort for you when you are married, and marriage does bring comfort to many, having that ring on the finger. It makes a difference.

I hope you stop the fighting and pressuring. I listened to a piece of stand up comedy recently where a comedian, said: “men don’t settle down; they surrender”-

Better not have a war. Better marry because of love, not because of war.

anita