Dear beginner25:

You asked if you are getting over him or being just stuck. I think both: you are getting over him and within this process of getting over him you are temporarily stuck in the numb phase. At times of intense emotions, the brain/ body protects itself from that intensity by going numb. It eases the pain, on one hand, and on the other, it decreases and even eliminates, temporarily, previous excitement, hopes, dreams and motivations.

Be patient with this process of getting over him. Give it time, don’t try to rush it (that will prolong what you want to end, the numbness) .

anita