Dear beginner25:

A very wise statement: “I should feel  loved not scared”, in a relationship with a man, that is. Excellent point. We become more of who we are, we expand, heal, when we feel safe in a relationship. We become less of who we are, we contract, get sick, when we feel scared, anxious in a relationship.

Love promotes healing. Fear promotes sickness. So yes, resuming a relationship with him is a bad idea.

Are you a bit excited, when you imagine, if you will, for a moment, if you imagine you being in a safe relationship with a man, where you feel relatively safe, quite confident that he is devoted to you, wanting and needing to be with you through distance, through unavoidable difficulties?

anita