I agree 100% to no fighting! The only thing is he has pretty bad anxiety, and whenever something triggers the anxiety he acts like a completely different person. Which can sometimes cause him to get angry with me, and can try and blame the whole situation on me. I understand that anxiety can do that, because I have it too but when that happens I don’t know how to react cause it just makes me want to fight back so he will realize it isn’t my fault, its just his reaction to the situation. But at the same time I would much rather resolve the issue than win the fight. In that case, if its just his anxiety what do I do? He realizes after the fact that it was the anxiety but not until he gets home and thinks about how he reacted. I want to be there for him, and I usually am but when he blames it all on me its hard to sympathize and not over react.