Hi Anita.

Hope you are having a good start to the weekend.

When we started planning the wedding, I told my ex not to get the families involved. I know how my family is and me being the only daughter, they would want it to be big and a little extravagant. We should be able to have had the wedding we wanted. But he started discussing the planning with my family. His family not once came over or phoned us to discuss anything. We settled on a venue and everything was okay. But then he mentioned he wanted to change it and then everything was settled for a different venue. A month before the wedding, a Saturday morning his dad phoned and spoke to my mother, and told her that his other son’s told him that if the wedding was going to take place there,  They won’t attend. His sister in law said that she will tell the guests not to wear jewellery because the venue was not a safe place. My family and I felt very offended because we are from the area. We have been staying here since my parents got married and how dare they say things like that . His dad wanted confirmation the same time, because the cards were going to print on that day.

I phoned his dad early the next day and spoke to him. I tried to explain the situation. And he his response was that if my family won’t stand with me, he will. And after baring kids, my family will be happy and I was confused until I understood what he meant. He was under the impression that my family won’t come to the wedding and I’d be alone.

My mum is a single parent. My dad dies 10 years ago. A once of major heart attack took his life. I wasn’t going to get married without my rock by my side. My family may be a crazy one but they have always had my back.

I was upset. Because if his family had been involved and told from the beginning how everything was being planned, this would have been resolved.

Our family had a lot of deaths from 2016- 2017 so it stressed everyone. All the problems that we previously had came to a boiling point and my mother couldn’t handle it. My aunt came over the next day and they had a meeting and they were upset. And I couldn’t blame them. I was hoping that things would have cooled down over a night’s sleep but I was mistaken. My mum suggested we cancel everything. Then she suggested we wait another year to get married. My brother was upset too and pin pointed a lot of things he found wrong in my relationship. Things he kept in for so long.

I told my ex that Monday what they had to say. How they felt and asked him to please stand with me to which he utterly threw back in my face. He deemed my families views as my own.

That same week on Wednesday, I phoned him and I asked how he was doing. He told me his father told him something that brought him down to his knees. His dad told him that I was not straight forward. I literally felt my heart stop. I was so shocked and so hurt. I felt my heart broke at that point. I felt that in that moment, I lost my father for the second time.

ur conversations after consisted of me being quiet and him lashing his anger out on me. I took it quietly. Hoping and praying he would calm down. But only after he had broken up with me did he seem more relaxed.

Sex well wasn’t really an important factor in our relationship. He had previous encounters but that never bothered me. As long he was faithful to me We wanted to do it but never really bothered to. Eventually we decided that we will leave it for honeymoon.

Our sexual thinking is much on the crazy side so I doubt that it would have been anything religious .