Laurie – go with your instinct and re-read my earlier advice.

As for how to get over this … it will take awhile. Feeling used by someone else, especially if it went on for awhile, is not an easy thing to accept. I still struggle over this in regards to my own situation from over a year ago. I was with someone for almost two years and it then blew up into uncovering depths of deceit. I am still haunted by thoughts of how easy it was for someone to infiltrate my life with things that weren’t true. I was always an open, friendly person before that; I’ve since closed myself off. While this may be to my own benefit moving forward, I miss being the person I was before. And maybe that’s where you will go too … missing the FEELING someone brought into your life versus the actual person. You can always recreate that feeling with someone new and have the hope that it may be sincere from all parties in the future.

The most immediate thing you can do though is get him off your bank account. Cut that off immediately.

I still think you should cease all contact and move along. This isn’t worth salvaging, in my opinion.