Hello John,

I felt I would chime in, though I think Anita is doing a great job of responding to your posts.

The entire thread seems to come down to the fact that you want a relationship with your ex, and for whatever reason, she does not want that at this time.  She is being polite with you.  If she wanted to pursue something with you, she would have said something by now.  I firmly, strongly believe this.  She may sense your emotional state and not want to say or do anything that would upset you further.

You said that if your ex would tell you that she wanted to try again, you would feel like you were on top of the world.  Yet in some of your earlier posts, you talked about the “drama” going on in her life that led to the breakdown of your relationship.  You claim you seem to attract women with drama and problems and that you are tired of the drama.  I am wondering if you’re thinking is that if you get back with your ex, all the drama will be behind you?  If this is true, I think you’re setting up for some real disappointment.

About counseling…my thought is that counseling is to help YOU find answers, not to have the counselers give you the answers you need.  It sounds like you want someone to tell you what you want to hear, rather than accepting what is.

Just my thoughts.

Airene