Dear nyquil4343:

Shame is a very painful feeling. It should not last long, that is, after you figure what behavior you disapprove of, resolve to correct that behavior and then correct it, the shame should go away. Often, unfortunately, shame lingers and expands. I hope this is not the case with you.

I hope it isn’t because when shame stays and is no longer about correcting behaviors you disapprove of, it harms.

Which is the case with you, do you think: is your shame about correcting this certain behavior or is it bigger than this one behavior and earlier than this weekend?

anita