Ok, I see where you are coming from. It’s confusing, I agree. She may have been genuinely happy and relieved to hear from you after months of regretting her harsh words to you, and she may have been sincerely curious about your love life and maybe even a little jealous since she is now  in a long distance relationship and perhaps lonely in it. Maybe a combination of all these things is what was coming across in those text messages to you. But the key now is that she has stopped initiating messages with you, and her responses to you are now very brief, and she didn’t take you up on your offer to meet. Don’t let the earlier flirtatious behavior blind you to what may be happening now, that she  is pulling away.

I hope she wasn’t playing games and screwing with your head like your female friend told you. It’s my feeling that she cares about you, didn’t want to hurt you and is relieved that after a few months of no contact she knows you are okay,  enjoys occasional correspondence with you, but isn’t looking to rekindle the romance with you at this time. If she’s confused about her feelings, the best thing you can do is to give her space to figure it all out. She knows how you feel already. Don’t tell her that you’ve changed; show her that you’ve changed.

B