Dear Simona:

The two of you agreed on a one month no contact break. You now wonder if you should break the agreement and contact him.

If you want to make a final break in the relationship, that is, to contact him and tell him that you are ending the relationship, you can do that, I am thinking.

But if you want to resume a relationship with him, breaking the agreement you made with him by contacting him, is not a good idea.

You asked if he is playing a game: pursue you for as long as you were not that into him and then withdraw from you once you were into him. I would think of it as a game if this is his pattern, if this happens in his life relationship after relationship, or if he pursues women then once intimate with them, he loses interest and pursues the next.

If it is not his pattern, then it may be that he needed your love but not for a lifetime, only temporarily. He got it and it filled him with enough confidence to be more social, go out more, have friends etc.

Maybe he was overwhelmed by how much power he had over you, not wanting to be the one responsible to whether you have a smile one day or a frown the next.

What do you think?

anita